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welcome! to emotional feelings, too!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings,
too, try out "the layer down under," (part of
the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
Visiting the homepage is a great idea as it offers the complete concept of the emotional feelings
network of sites! You can also read this month's "I've just gotta say it!"
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click here! Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recovery from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
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How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, too," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites
included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
  Have you pondered upon your personal commitments to
yourself?
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A note from kathleen........
You may be coming
to this page concerning commitment because you're interested
in learning about the commitments involved in a relationship
between two people...
My earnest reply
to your inquiry is:
What's the condition
of your commitment to yourself, first?
If you're recovering
from depression, an anxiety disorder, other mental health issue, addiction, a dysfunctional family life, a divorce, abuse or just the continual string of uncommitted relationships....
have you considered how committed you are to becoming the best
you can be before involving another person in your life?
Take some time
to examine your commitment to yourself as a person. What do you
think about yourself? Is your relationship w/yourself in good shape? The following article is interesting & involves some wonderful
concepts for you to ponder on....
sincerely,
kathleen...
Let yourself really hear, really feel, really see.
Let yourself be a human being…
Only
when you are real with yourself
Can you find the right path in life…
Tom Luian (1988)
have you committed
to finding your "right path in life?"
The Recovery Medicine Wheel
The term “medicine”
as it is used in the term Medicine Wheel refers to a healing, a teaching, an enlightening, … spiritual energy. A Medicine Wheel can best be described as a mirror within which everything is reflected…
The Medicine Wheel encompasses
the Four Directions, Four Winds, Four Grandfathers, Four Elements (earth, fire, air, water),
4 races of people in the human family (Black, White, Red & Yellow). We the people have
4 aspects to our nature, 4 major realms of human existence.
North - the physical realm
East - the realm of knowledge & enlightenment
South - the spiritual realm
West - the realm of introspective thought
Walking the Steps
Walking the steps
of the recovery medicine wheel means choosing a starting point & continuing in a sun wise direction & back to your beginning place.
A circle has no true beginning nor ending point, so when you've traveled thru the wheel back to where you have started; you're
ready to begin again… with new understanding. This is a life long quest…
This Medicine Wheel
concept is ancient, passed thru the generations. It's a spiritual, emotional, psychological & physical improvement model.
To be used by & for those who seek inner peace, spiritual strength & a healthier mind & body.
It's a powerful tool with which a person can utilize to maintain sobriety & sustain recovery. It's especially beneficial to ACOA, Codependents & people with addictions.
Think of the steps as you would the paddle of a canoe. The paddle has great potential for moving you along a river. But it's up
to you to put the paddle in the water, push forward & adjust to the current. In the same way, the steps of the Recovery Medicine Wheel will have great potential for moving you along the “River of Life” to recovery. BUT, you must apply them sincerely!
North
Physical Realm
The north is the place of
beginning because it the place of rebirth. You must make a decision in your life to stop physically abusing your body.
This means you'll
begin to see the entire picture of your life. In so doing… come to understand that the physical
well being involves the need to become enlightened. It also means to become aware of the important connection between; emotions, life stress, sense of self & the effect these life elements have on your physical health.
- Beginning today I'll stop
inflicting pain (physical / emotional) on myself & others.
If you hurt inside… if you have anger / pain you must release it at a safe time & in a safe manner. If
you're causing pain in any form… it must stop… beginning today.
- Beginning today I'll
come to an understanding that change is a process.
People from dysfunctional
families are NOT accustomed to process living. They go from Crisis to Crisis. Recovering people must LEARN to live life as a process. Understand & accept that this learning takes time & the changing takes time. You may not be able to expect an overnight miracle but you can expect a miracle over time…
East
Realm of Knowledge & Enlightenment
The east is the morning
direction. New day, new, light, new thought & resolve…
- Beginning today I'll reawaken
to all creation & all of the beauty that exists in the world around me.
Like everything worthwhile,
opening up again takes work. Open yourself up to new experiences, new persons & new awareness. Begin today; to be… to become… to live…
- Beginning today I'll release
myself from a Narrow view of life & begin to grow, learn & gain new knowledge.
You must now begin to
give up you narrow & self destructive view of life. Venture forth. Challenge yourself to learn… to grow… & to gain new knowledge… Go beyond fear to begin feeling that you're worthwhile, that you can make a positive life change.
- Beginning today I'll remember
that I have a sacred right to live my life as I wish & need to bring harmony & balance into my existence by respecting the life rights of others.
You have the right to be you. You don't have the right to play a role assigned to
you by your dysfunctional family. We need to have love & respect for others as well. We must learn to balance our rights, needs & desires with those of others in order to achieve harmony. You need to have love & respect for others as well. We must learn to balance our rights, needs & desires with those of others to achieve harmony.
- Beginning today I'll
work on understanding the changes I must make in order to achieve
personal harmony, balance & freedom.
Consider the cognition & behavior changes that'll bring you freedom from your addiction. Move away from old, dysfunctional, destructive life patterns to new balances, functional ways of living. Fear must be replaced with a feeling of personal strength thru the caring support of the self by the self & of the self by others. Co-operation must replace tyrannical
control & love must replace self hatred.
South
Spiritual Realm
The south is the realm of existence where
we'll make a connection with a spiritual power greater than ourselves. Some may see this greater power as the collective essence of all people. Others may see this as being pure energy.
- Beginning today I'll come
to an understanding of my special relationship to Mother Earth &
release my pain to her.
We see the Earth
as the Mother to all living things. The soil provides us with food, the stone & soil that trees are in the earth can provide
shelter for us.
If we know &
respect the earth, she'll always provide for us. In your recovery, Mother Earth will heal you with her beauty & energy.
Touch Mother Earth
& ask her to remove your inner sadness, anxiety & fear. Ask her to allow you to let go of negative thinking & negative self perception. Release your pain to Mother Earth & you'll be refreshed, released, reborn & freed.
- Today I'll come to
understand my relationship with Father Sky.
Father Sky is
wind, rain, snow, thunder & lightening, stillness, movement, clarity & cloudiness. It can either take or give life.
Father Sky will
act as a reminder of the feelings within you; both gentle & destructive. If you watch & respect the ways of Father Sky, you'll understand the meaning of balance & feel within you a sense of strength & ability.
- Today I'll seek the
connection I have with all of the universe.
This step teaches
us to understand humility & belonging. We can continue to heal ourselves by sharing knowledge & love with others.
This love & connectedness must be supportive & uplifting. It must be unconditional love. It shouldn't be the kind of love you expected in the past or had expected of you when drugs & alcohol were involved.
That type of love isn't love at all. You must say; “I'm going to begin caring for myself & accept the love & support from others.”
- Today I'll reconnect with & nurture my own spirit.
This is the most
direct, yet difficult step within the spiritual realm. This step asks you to nurture your own spirit.
To do this you
must connect with your inner self, with that most private part of you. You must be able to acknowledge your fears, desires, emotions & feelings of distress.
Most of all; you
must learn to care for your own spirit.
Think of your spirit as a child. Find out what can be done to help that child. See if the child needs love, reassurance or comforting. Is the child angry? If so let the child express some anger. Find a safe time & place for that child to let that anger go.
That safe
time may in a therapists office or in a sweat lodge, in a support group or in the solitude
of your own room. You should find someone who will be caring, supportive & nonjudgmental.
Treat your spirit,
yourself, with love. Seek out your inner self. Heal your spirit…
West
Realm of Introspective Thought
This is the realm where
we must look within ourselves & be honest with what we see or find.
- Today I'll speak
honestly with myself. This step is asking you to stop suppressing feelings, stop turning off emotions & stop denying that problems exist. i.e., if you're an adult child of an alcoholic, you may want to appear helpful, calm & in control.
In reality you'd
be acting helpful as a means of avoiding rejection. You may appear calm. But it's a way of showing inner tension & fear. Your controlled exterior is likely an attempt to cover up your feelings of failure & inadequacy.
In order to be healed,
you'll need to begin speaking honestly with yourself. As you become aware of the truths of your current life experiences, path to recovery the choices you make will be clear.
- Today I'll look at
my problems & my accomplishments with a willingness to commit myself to positive growth & change. A person's ability to look at both problems & accomplishments can be an indicator of his/her sense of self. At this point in the Medicine Wheel, acknowledgment of both problems & accomplishments return balance to your life. Commitment to positive growth & change provides the path to healing.
- Today I'll examine
the ways in which I've tried to manipulate, control or manage the lives of others. I'll make a commitment to stop this behavior.
This step has a great deal of meaning for recovering addicts, adult children of alcoholics, co-dependent persons as
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