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 It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
 
Reason being: If you're here because you're searching for an answer to your feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, feeling sick, or just general feelings of misery in your life - you need to find a volunteer opportunity that you feel comfortable with.
 
For a life changing listen - click here - it's truly life changing and something we all need to listen to. It does take some time to listen to Randy Pausch's Last Lecture, but you won't regret it.
 
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
 
Why not just click here now to get it over with! So even if you leave this site after finding some information concerning an emotion or feeling... you'll also leave with the seed of thought concerning volunteer work that might produce some results bringing you a sense of accomplishment & find yourself feeling better!

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Your dictionary definition of:

clar·i·ty   

n.

  1. Clearness of appearance: the clarity of the mountain air.

  2. Clearness of thought or style; lucidity: writes with clarity & perception

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5 years ago I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, depression & I was also experiencing an eating disorder that no one knew anything about; night eating.
 
While I was miserable in experiencing all the symptoms of post traumatic stress, an anxiety disorder & depression - which often accompanies anxiety disorders; I was overjoyed in finally finding out what was wrong with me!

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Why would someone spend 1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?

I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!
 
How would I find the time?
 
Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:
 
"Helping yourself thru helping others..." 
 
I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!

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My immediate concern was "mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to a "mental problem."

 
I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.
 
Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life.
 
So I started with the mental health site that now exists within the network:
 
 
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it's time to put the frosting on the cake!

I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone else.
 
But since the ruination of the "extremely emotional" site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -
 
"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of course!) 
 
or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?
 
Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?" & I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative
 
This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the "positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained "power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.
 
After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words "s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.
 
"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!
 
I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences to emotions & feelings!
 
I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!
 
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thanks for your continued patience with me as it takes so long to re-establish all the underlined link words as well as building a new site!
 
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after looking things over here at emotional feelings, too try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
 
Visiting the homepage is a great idea as it offers the complete concept of the emotional feelings network of sites! You can also read this month's "I've just gotta say it!" 

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 click here!  Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
 
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
 
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
 
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help! Those experiencing traumatic injury may develop problems with their mental health.
 
 
 

What is Operation Helmet?

Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan. To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.

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You'll notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional feelings, too," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
 
The reason for this opportunity is very simple & yet you may be unnerved by all those underlined words! I've been in recovery from post traumatic stress disorder, depression & many other dysfunctional ventures & thru it all I've discovered that emotion & feeling work may be the missing link that many people miss when trying to find solutions to their problems.
 
Developing a sense of curiosity about why you feel the way you do, is essential in finding the solution you so desperately are searching for.
 
If you can't find what you came here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
 
It's very simple & very interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
 
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
 
Best of luck & if you're still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
 
Sincerely,
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"The tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goal.

The tragedy of life lies in having no goal to reach."

Benjamin E. Mays

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There's a Buddhist saying,

"When your mind is clear,
You can see yourself."

In times of change & seemingly unpredictable patterns of living, remaining clear is crucial. Clarity allows you to distinguish facts. It empowers you to see all aspects of situations & to make best choices most quickly.

Your ability to be clear is influenced in many ways. A key factor is the quality of your personal energy. In the East, this is called chi.

When you think of chi, you can image it as a vibrational frequency having a relationship with all elements of life. There is chi in every human cell, chi in land & a chi essence that relates to all physical form as art objects, books & so on. One principle of the laws of energy is that chi is affected by the quality of the chi around it.

You're born with a basic quality of chi & then depending upon many factors, the state of your chi will vary at any given time. Strong & clear chi brings good results. The mind & spirit are clear. Weak chi brings distractions, illusions, difficulties & suffering.

The quality of the chi energy in your living & working environment affects your personal chi. Feng Shui, the ancient art of spatial design, addresses the analysis, understanding & cultivation of strong & clear chi in self & space. Feng Shui acknowledges power in the visible & non-visible form.

The physical space you live & work in mirrors the essence of your soul. It's a means to better know & appreciate who you are. And it's a vehicle to encourage stability, calm & awareness. It's a convenient & vital way to support your personal clarity as an ongoing way of life.


A first step to stimulate clarity is to be conscious to what's in your environment & notice how it affects you. This knowing awakens a vital essence to free stuck energies & strengthen positive forces within.

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Meditation & Consciousness:
A Dialogue Between a Meditation Teacher & a Psychologist

An Interview with Shinzen Young by Charles T. Tart, Senior Research Fellow, Institute of Noetic Sciences

Shinzen Young: When I meditate I apply a few axioms, which embody for me the basic principles of meditation. The first axiom is the axiom "mindfulness": clarity of awareness is preferable to murkiness of awareness.

To illustrate: A person might say "I feel angry". That represents a certain amount of clarity. They know they're angry vs. not angry.

But they could be more clear by saying, i.e., "I have a sequence of negative thoughts about this situation & at the same time I have certain sensations that are rising within my body." That represents a greater clarity.

Instead of one bit of information "I'm angry", there's a richer information flow, a higher "baud rate". One has become specific about the types of thoughts & feelings that constitute the anger.

One could become even clearer still & recount the exact sequence of thoughts, their interrelationships & the locations of the body sensations. This is what is meant by mindfulness.

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Charles T. Tart: So one way to look at what you call clarity here is the richness of a perception, or the articulatedness of it.

From a conventional scientific perspective, though, or even a "common sense" perspective, someone might ask,

"How do you know that increased articulation is true detail of what is there? What is truly clearer perception & what is vivid fantasy about perception?"

One might have a muscle tension due to anger in the body & generate many fantasies starting from that tension, vs. being more clearly perceptive of how those muscles actually feel. How is the distinction made?

Shinzen: Actually, I would say from my experience that, in meditation, we just want to be more clear about what seems to be real. So, in a sense, the distinction between fantasy & actuality isn't so important.

Charles: You just made thousands of philosophers roll over in their graves!

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Shinzen: From my point of view, the process of meditation isn't the same as the endeavors of philosophy or of science.

The endeavor of meditation is a utilitarian endeavor. It's to know the truth of one's own internal processes. Even if those processes are "illusory", you strive to have more knowledge about the specifics of the "illusion".

Meditation has a goal: that goal is to allow a person to experience the mind-body process without feeling limited by & trapped within that process. It's not to find some kind of cosmic truth outside of whatever truth you need to know in order to be a free person.

In meditation you are simply observing the mind & body as it is experienced in the moment. If they happen to be lost in illusions of different sorts, then your job is merely to trace, in real time, the course of the illusion, to experience its comings & goings, rather than try to get rid of it. At least that's one approach to meditation.

So "mindfulness" is a first axiom.

A 2nd axiom is the axiom of "equanimity": that it's desirable not to grasp or block the flow of the mind-body process. Our ordinary tendency is to grasp or block, to fixate or freeze the on-going process of consciousness & that is what brings us a sense of limitation & suffering.

So we sit down & we begin to observe, to develop heightened clarity & we make a conscious effort to be, moment by moment, as accepting of this process as possible.

A 3rd axiom is the axiom of "realization". It states that when we meditate in accordance with the first 2 axioms, important transformations will take place within us. These will culminate with some very dramatic experiences which represent permanent transformations, such that we no longer feel trapped in the mind-body process. Therefore we will realize an abiding, constant sense of freedom & fulfillment, which is independent of conditions & circumstances.

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Posture for Calming Mind & Body

Shinzen: The posture aspect in meditation is related, I would say, to developing calmness of the mind & body. Calmness of the mind & body is virtually identical with one's ability to focus & concentrate & concentration plays the role of what we might metaphorically call a microscope.

You turn that microscope towards aspects of the mind-body process & observe them. So if you sit in a posture that is "perfect", it is true that it is easier to get a settling of the mind-body & at the same time it involves an alertness. The settling, plus the alertness, is the microscope.

However, a person can begin this process of exploration without having a particularly deep state of microscopic awareness & it is also true that it's possible to develop an attachment to certain positions & postures.

I have heard of teachers that discourage the use of special postures, & make you do your meditation as a day-to-day activity, while you work, play, eat, go to the bathroom, etc. This might seem a hard way to go, but that is the method of what is sometimes called sukkhavipassana, or "dry mindfulness meditation".

It's just completely dry awareness; it's not watered by any of the bliss of special concentration states. And you can do that in any posture at all.

Charles: Most of my experience is in what you call dry mindfulness. It's been work I've done in the Gurdjieff tradition, which says develop this self-remembering, this quality of presence in the here & now, a simultaneous awareness of body & psychological self coupled with simultaneous enhanced awareness of that is going on around you.

Certainly there's no special posture involved; you do it in the midst of life. For me to practice traditional meditation, where I'm sitting still in a quiet place, is very different.

Shinzen: Remember, though, some "traditional" teachings are that way, too, like what you call the nontraditional.

Charles: My finding to date has been that these two methods both seem necessary to complement each other. I've learned to produce a certain kind of mindfulness thru self-remembering in the midst of intense activity. It's valuable in a variety of ways.

But it's like learning to balance on an actively moving surface, like surfing must be. There's a very high activity level while I'm doing it. The kind of self-remembering I do doesn't generally get me in touch w/very subtle mind-body processes, although they may be going on in the background & ultimately affecting my foreground experience.

When I sit down  practice the traditional sort of vipassana meditation, the subtle processes are much more visible because they're not being swamped by the activity / noise of everyday life.

At the same time, this awareness at a more subtle level feels like a problem in some ways. A level of thought, i.e., that wouldn't interfere in the hurly-burly of life with a certain high degree of mindfulness now seems like a rampaging storm!

Shinzen: You've raised a lot of interesting issues. We can branch out in a number of ways here. Before we go any further, though, I'd like to clear up a couple of things.

What constitutes a special meditation posture is a posture that allows for stability with alertness. Any posture that allows for that is valid.

There is nothing magic about twisting yourself into a pretzel. Any posture is useful only insofar as it allows for stability & alertness. The fact that the spine is kept upright affects the posture sensors that are connected to the reticular activating system.

An upright posture keeps the activational level of the brain up. If you start to allow the posture to degenerate in different ways you get a direct physiological impact on alertness.

On the other hand, you want a meditation posture that gives you not just wakefulness, but a real sense of "settled-in-ness". In Japan they have been doing physiological research on Zen meditation since before World War II.

They did electromyographic studies of the muscles showing readouts as though they were asleep! They're that relaxed. So you know that a profound physiological change is taking place in the musculature to allow a person to sit in such a rigorous posture with muscles relaxed as if lying down, asleep.

So, it's not so much that the legs have to be crossed, or anything like that, but the position has to give relaxation & alertness at the same time. That could be achieved in a chair, depending on how you use the chair - if you don't slouch.

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Skillful Experiencing of Pain

Shinzen: I described these traditional meditation postures as being stable, settled, comfortable. In point of fact, though, to learn them you probably are going to have to go thru years of discomfort. That may seem the opposite of the goal.

As you're sitting there holding one of these postures, you have a baseline of discomfort. You begin to notice that your sense of suffering around that baseline of discomfort goes thru ebbs & flows.

Every once in a while you'll have a significant experience. The discomfort will not have changed, but something in your relationship to it changes - spontaneously.

That's because there are moment-by-moment fluctuations in your level of "grasping" or "resistance". Psychological grasping is your main source of suffering, not the physical sensations in your legs -that is to say, how much you are tightening psychologically around those sensations is the main source of suffering.

You may be spending most of your time in habitual tightening or resisting of the sensations, but if you sit there long enough, every once in a while, just because of the impermanent nature of things, your resistance will lessen for a moment, just spontaneously.

At that time you begin to make a correlation. Diminished "resistance" brings about diminished suffering. You literally train yourself out of the habit of suffering.

What you learn in this way with respect to pain of physical origin is immediately generalizable to pain of psychological origin. Suffering is a function of two variables: one's discomfort & one's habit of resisting that discomfort. Put mathematically: s = f(d,r).

Charles: But I wonder about "unnecessary" pain. i.e., Shinzen, you don't have us wear hair shirts when we meditate. Hair shirts, as were used in medieval Christian mysticism, would definitely add to the pain. You don't have us lean sideways ten degrees, which would considerably increase the muscle strain & consequent physical pain.

Shinzen: Pain does two things. If it's experienced in a "skillful" way, the energy in pain will break up the knotty, hard parts of one's being.

This is true whether the pain is of physical or psychological origin. On the other hand, if pain is experienced in an unskillful way, it does just the opposite, creates more knots, making a person brittle & rigid.

Therefore, there's nothing whatsoever to be said in favor of pain per se for meditators. It can just as much create new blockages as it can break up old ones.

Everything depends on one's degree of skill in experiencing it. Very little depends on the intensity of the discomfort itself. A small discomfort greeted w/a large amount of skill will break up old knots. A small discomfort greeted with a large lack of skill will create new knots.

The same is true with respect to big discomforts. The trick is not so much to endure massive doses of pain, but to develop that skill which will allow you to get the maximum growth out of whatever happens to come up.

i.e., sometimes I'll do a practice where I'll lie in bed & be completely motionless for several hours. Somewhere along the line I feel that I'd like to move part of my body in some little way. I get subtle pressures here or there. I find that if I can detect & open up to those subtle pressures completely, I really get somewhere.

These minor irritations are likely to come up at any time, so if you can greet each with great skill, they're opportunities for growth.

"Skill" with sensation means to be relatively more clearly aware of the sensation & relatively more accepting of the sensation than you would be otherwise.

When a person greets a minor pain with great awareness & great acceptance, then it has a much more powerful growth effect than to greet a major pain with grudging endurance.

This was nicely summarized by Thomas Merton. Merton was a Christian monk with a great appreciation of the Eastern meditative traditions - not an uncommon combination nowadays. I'm paraphrasing, but somewhere I remember him saying something like

"I did not become a monk to suffer more than other people, I became a monk to suffer more effectively."

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Learning to Relax

Charles: In my reports on my meditation experiences, I noted that when I settled down to meditate & I consciously put attention to my body, one of the first experiences is that of tension patterns.

Sometimes just being aware of them results in their automatically relaxing, sometimes it doesn't. It's variable. If you feel an obviously useless tension, such as noticing that you're sitting there clenching your hand for no good reason, should you deliberately relax the tension, or should you just study it as it is?

I think you already said something to the effect that you would be mindful of whatever it is you do with it.

Shinzen: You've just asked a really interesting question. I believe that there are two ways of learning relaxation, because there are two distinct levels at which a person can relax.

I speak of top-to-bottom relaxation vs. bottom-to-top relaxation. "Top" refers to the surface conscious mind, "bottom" the deep unconscious.

Top-to-bottom relaxation is what most people think of when they think of relaxation. It's voluntary relaxation, like a progressive relaxation where you make an effort to relax.

When a person sits to meditate I think it is good to do whatever possible to relax the overall body. I usually try to get an overall sense of the body relaxing. I call it a "settled-in" sense.

i.e., I notice that during sitting sometimes my shoulders will come up, so I'll relax them as an act of conscious intention.

This form of relaxation, although it's valid & useful, is also limited, because there are certain things that you can't relax intentionally, like the kind of intense sensations that come up when you stub your toe.

You can't go thru a progressive relaxation & just relax the sensations going on in your stubbed toe. And what about the sensations that go with a stubbed ego?

For that type of phenomenon, it's desirable to learn about a second kind of relaxation which I call bottom-to-top.

Bottom-to-top relaxation deals with the source of tension which is deep within the unconscious mind & way out of the range of conscious control.

How can you