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nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle factors, and every other topic listed within

navigational hint: all underlined link words open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!

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 It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
 
Reason being: If you're here because you're searching for an answer to your feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, feeling sick, or just general feelings of misery in your life - you need to find a volunteer opportunity that you feel comfortable with.
 
For a life changing listen - click here - it's truly life changing and something we all need to listen to. It does take some time to listen to Randy Pausch's Last Lecture, but you won't regret it.
 
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
 
Why not just click here now to get it over with! So even if you leave this site after finding some information concerning an emotion or feeling... you'll also leave with the seed of thought concerning volunteer work that might produce some results bringing you a sense of accomplishment & find yourself feeling better!

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Your dictionary definition of:

centered

adj.

  1. Being at or placed in the center.

  2. Having a specified center. Often used in combination: a soft-centered candy; a yellow-centered daisy.

  3. Self-confident, goal-oriented & well-balanced: He's a centered guy. He's always seemed to know what he wanted, and gone after it in a concrete way (Vanity Fair).

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5 years ago I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, depression & I was also experiencing an eating disorder that no one knew anything about; night eating.
 
While I was miserable in experiencing all the symptoms of post traumatic stress, an anxiety disorder & depression - which often accompanies anxiety disorders; I was overjoyed in finally finding out what was wrong with me!

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Why would someone spend 1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?

I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!
 
How would I find the time?
 
Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:
 
"Helping yourself thru helping others..." 
 
I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!

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My immediate concern was "mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to a "mental problem."

 
I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.
 
Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life.
 
So I started with the mental health site that now exists within the network:
 
 
(be sure to read the following description)

it's time to put the frosting on the cake!

I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone else.
 
But since the ruination of the "extremely emotional" site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -
 
"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of course!) 
 
or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?
 
Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?" & I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative
 
This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the "positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained "power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.
 
After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words "s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.
 
"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!
 
I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences to emotions & feelings!
 
I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!
 
kathleen

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is coming along.
 
it's the replacement site for extremely emotional!
 
thanks for your continued patience with me as it takes so long to re-establish all the underlined link words as well as building a new site!
 
kathleen

 
Chase after money & security & your heart will never unclench. Care about people's approval & you will be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity.
 
 Lao-tzu, 500 BC
 
 
The superior person thinks always of virtue; the common person thinks of comfort.

 
Confucius

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welcome! to emotional feelings,2!
 
after looking things over here at emotional feelings, 2, try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
 
Visiting the homepage is a great idea as it offers the complete concept of the emotional feelings network of sites! You can also read this month's "I've just gotta say it!"

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 click here!  Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
 
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
 
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
 
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help! Those experiencing traumatic injury may develop problems with their mental health.
 
 
 

What is Operation Helmet?

Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan. To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.

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How this site works best for you!
 
You'll notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional feelings, too," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
 
The reason for this opportunity is very simple & yet you may be unnerved by all those underlined words! I've been in recovery from post traumatic stress disorder, depression & many other dysfunctional ventures & thru it all I've discovered that emotion & feeling work may be the missing link that many people miss when trying to find solutions to their problems.
 
Developing a sense of curiosity about why you feel the way you do, is essential in finding the solution you so desperately are searching for.
 
If you can't find what you came here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
 
It's very simple & very interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
 
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
 
Best of luck & if you're still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
 
Sincerely,
Kathleen

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Staying Centered in Peace
by Lisa Hepner

As a chaplain at a local church I'm trained to see the "highest good" even when things on the outside seem contrary. I'm trained to see the perfect expression of God in all situations. So for example, I've been taught to see beyond outer manifestations such as disease & see the inherent wholeness & perfection in all people.

Yet when the events of September 11, 2001 happened, it was a struggle to see beyond the pain. I just couldn’t see the “good” in the situation, when all I felt was pain & all I could see all around me was tragedy & devastation.

Yet, I knew I'd be called to pray with others & would need to come to terms with my own feelings regarding this horrible tragedy. I'd need to find my own “peace” of mind regarding the horrific events.

As a person on this spiritual journey, like many of you, I seek advice & solace from many mentors in the spiritual / personal growth arena.

So I wondered what some of the great minds I had studied, like Neale Donald Walsch, Marianne Williamson & others would say about the recent tragedy. What would their perspective be & what words of wisdom would they offer to help me & others move beyond the paralysis of pain to the comfort of healing?

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Thus the book Peaceful Earth: Spiritual Perspectives on Hope & Healing Beyond Terrorism came to fruition.

After reading the collection of stories & insights from all of these spiritual teachers, I was able to come to a place of peace & centeredness. I was able to go forward with a feeling of expectancy for all the good that could come about. I was filled with hope & peace. I know anyone that reads these powerful messages will also be able to stay centered in peace.

All the stories & perspectives in the book have a common theme. Even though there are many different authors & many different ways of saying or expressing their feelings, they all basically say the same thing.

And in order to demonstrate the 3 main themes I'd like to tell you a story. I often see things in stories, so I would like to share this one with you.

It was Christmas-time at a crowded bus station. One man stood out in the crowd. Why? Because he was rude & obnoxious. He had an angry face filled with hatred; you could see it in his eyes. His forehead was crinkled & he glared at anyone he made eye contact with.

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The man reeked of body odor & his physical appearance was disheveled. He wore mangled clothes & his facial hair was matted together. His language was obscene & under his breath he was cursing at everyone.

Not only that, but he was obscenely drunk. He teetered & stammered as he bumped into anyone in his path. He had no concern for the space of others.

People at the bus station were getting upset at the actions of this vile man. Many of them decided to push him back when he bumped into them. One young man, pushed the drunken man when he bumped into him & said, “Watch where you’re going, Jerk.”

As the man pushed the drunken man, he became easily off balance & bumped into more people. Everyone started pushing back & yelling things like, “Jerk, Scum” This only fueled the anger already in the man’s heart. He cursed louder & became more obscene.

Before you knew it, everyone in the bus station was full of anger & disgust. Suddenly one man pushed the drunken man so hard, that he fell over & landed near a woman sitting on a bench with her 8 year-old daughter.

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The 8 year-old girl looked at the man trying to get up & then looked at her mom. “We should help him, don’t you think?” she asked her mom.

The mother responded, “Normally, dear, we’d help, but not in this situation. This is different.” The mother silently prayed that the vile man wouldn't come over & disturb them.

Suddenly, the little girl got up & went over to the man, who had at this time stood up.

The little girl looked the man directly in the eyes & said, “Sir, why are you so angry?”

The drunken man slurred & yelled at the little girl to go away. “Leave me alone,” he yelled.

The little girl was persistent. She pulled on his shirt & got the man’s attention. “Leave me alone, get away from me,” he slurred.

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The little girl again, looked him in the eyes & said, “The reason I asked is because I was wondering if there was anything I could do to help?”

The man froze in his tracks. The angry look on his face softened & he broke into tears. The 3 of them; the drunken man, the little girl & the mother, cried together.

They found out that a year ago, the drunken man’s wife had died. They'd been living paycheck to paycheck as it was & w/ the high cost of funeral expenses & the downgrade to only one salary, the man took a turn for the worse.

He lost his car & lost his home & most importantly, he lost the love of his life. He became homeless. On that day, the year anniversary of his wife’s death, he had sold his only winter jacket in order to get bus fare so he could visit his wife at the cemetery.

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Many of you may be wondering how this story relates to the recent terrorist events. Yet, there are 3 principles demonstrated in that story that parallel our recent tragedy.

The first is that behind every act of lashing out in anger, there's a deep-rooted pain. We may not know what it is, but the outward manifestation is anger.

Like the drunk man in the bus station. All we see on the outside is a disgusting man w/ no respect for others. We don’t know his situation, we don’t know his pain. We just see the outside manifestation of his anger. Yet, all anger has pain at its root.

In order to solve the problem, like Neale Donald Walsch said in the book, we must look at the cause, or the root of the problem. If we ignore the deep-rooted pain, or the cause of the anger, the problem will not go away & we'll never fully heal.

I love Jean Houston’s analogy in the book when she likens the terrorist events to a cancer. To further the analogy, if we rely on the doctors to remove the problem, (like we’re relying on government to solve the problem) thru surgery, but we continue to smoke, i.e., than we haven’t solved the root problem, which is the cigarettes. The doctors can keep performing surgery to remove pieces of the diseased lung, but until the culprit (cigarettes) is stopped the problem will continue to manifest.

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So I ask all of us to not just look at the outward manifestation, which was the act of terrorism but to look at the cause behind the bombing & to remember that behind every lashing out in anger there's a deep-rooted pain.

Second, anger begets anger. In the above story, the angry man angered others. When the people at the bus station retaliated w/ anger it only fueled the anger that was already in the man’s heart. Eventually, the anger spread throughout the whole bus station, leaving everyone angry. Yet the problem still continued & was even compounded.

I heard that in Native American tradition they have a saying that says the man who seeks revenge must dig two graves, one for the person he is seeking revenge upon & one for himself. This illustrates the principal that anger only begets more anger.

The last principle illustrated in the above example, was that the only thing that could dissolve the man’s anger was the pure, innocent love of a child who cared enough to find out what was going on inside the man.

Like Alan Cohen reiterated in the book, the quote from Gandhi that said, “the pure love of one person can offset the hatred of thousands.” What a powerful illustration of the power of love.

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In Alan Cohen’s story he talks about the fact that in Native American tradition one person is assigned the role of Faith keeper. That person is responsible for keeping the faith of the entire village, even when drought, disease or famine is prevalent.

This is our mission now, to become faith keepers of peace. To keep love in our hearts & to see peace everywhere. We all know the power of staying centered in peace & seeing only peace in the world until it becomes a reality.

How do we stay centered in peace? The easiest & most natural thing that I do is “put myself in another’s shoes.” If someone appears to be disrupting the peace, I choose to look beyond the situation & put myself in his or her situation.

And, even though I may not know what's going on in their life, I can sympathize with them, knowing that they must be in some kind of deep pain in order to be so angry or act foolishly. Again, it doesn’t mean I’m condoning the behavior, only trying to see or understand the cause of their behavior.

The second thing I do is pray. Whenever I feel like I’m not centered in peace, I pray. I acknowledge the perfect peace all around me. I confirm the peace of the world & my part in it. I utilize my chaplain training & “see” peace everywhere.

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As part of my prayer I see myself connected to my friends & immediate family than connected to people in Africa, Australia, England, China, etc. I see a ball of energy joining us all together. And, I acknowledge that “we're all one.” I send love out to the world. I see it radiating outward to everyone.

Lastly, I remind myself of the readings & words of our great spiritual leaders.

I remember Alan Cohen’s story about being a Faith keeper, then I make a conscious decision to be one or I remember Dan Millman's statement about not giving power to “a small group of zealots, to not let them live in our head rent-free.”

Like St. Francis of Assisi said, “while you are proclaiming peace w/ your lips, be
careful to have it more fully in your heart.”

Once peace is in the hearts of each & every one of us there'll be no violence, there'll be world peace. But we can’t expect world peace, when we can’t even be at peace w/our coworker or mother. So, again the 3 tools I use to stay centered in peace are: Sympathize, Pray & Remember.

Change starts at the individual level, then spreads like wildfire to the hearts & minds of everyone.

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In June of 2001, I quit my job in a lucrative career in the medical field. I decided to pursue my writing career & express my creative talents.

I gave myself 6 months. I just felt that if I had 6 months, I'd be able to finish some writing projects & get them off the ground. 6 months came & went. I finished a few writing projects, but my financial estimates were way off.

Money was running out. I was getting
desperate. I had to go back to the medical field, or get a job doing something that made good money. I was dreading going back to the medical field, but was getting ready to make that decision, because I had too.

Then the events of September 11 happened. It changed my life, as it changed so many others. It catapulted me into an entirely different direction.

As a spiritual seeker, I wondered what my mentors like Neale Donald Walsch, Jean Houston, Dan Millman, Marianne Williamson & others would say about the tragedy of September 11. Then I got an idea to compile a book.

I spent 2 solid months on the book & self published it to get it out in a timely manner. The book is doing very well. It is on Amazon.com & will be on Barnes & Noble.com. It's being carried by 2 major distributors & has received several
encouraging reviews. People are amazed & shocked how fast this was able to happen.

My answer to them is first, "It was a God-thing." Second,
"I wouldn't have been able to do it, had I not been in a position to devote all my efforts to it. Thus, had I had a job, I wouldn't have been able to devote the time necessary to finish it. It was a lot of work, but I was able to do it."

Remember that saying, "God can see around corners, but we can't?" I completely believe that. I
believe all the events in my life have been intricately coordinated to lead me to the completion of this book, so that I'd be at the right place at the right time to handle such a project
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The Secret to Staying Centered & Happy in a Troubled World
By: Junod Etienne
Posted 11/30/04
 
Many of us are probably so used to crisis in the world that it has become a natural part of our mental scenery. We've grown accustomed to living in a world where acts of bitter conflict, unrest & inhumanity are everyday things & their constant contradiction w/our essential values almost seems normal.

But are we really aware of the effect that these daily messages have on our minds & attitudes, on our inner life? How do we deal w/our real feelings about the war, terrorism, the elections, the environment, & other issues?
 
It's surprisingly easy to carry silent resentment, fear & deep anxiety about these things w/out even realizing it.

Everyone knows it's important for any individual to stay balanced, but how can one do it when the pressure is on, when one is assaulted by negative messages from all sides?

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Get in Touch w/yourself.

People are usually much more willing to analyze an external issue & give opinions than to look inside themselves. Take a moment to get in touch w/your inner response to a much talked about & urgent current event.
 
Use some adjectives to describe your personal way of relating to the events you're aware of & write them down on a piece of paper. Do you feel concerned, combative, hopeful, disgusted, despondent or numb? Are the feelings obvious or vague? Allowing your feelings to become clear to you gives you more power to influence them.

Decide what gets inside your head.

Every day, Americans are bombarded by information from advertisements & the media. Maybe in years past, news about world events used to come at a slower pace, often by word of mouth, but nowadays it's easy to overdose before finishing breakfast, on information about events occurring on the other side of the world.

Just as you make choices about the foods you eat, be judicious about what you allow to enter your mind. What you hear & see affects what you think & what you think over time determines the quality & substance of your life.
 
How necessary is it to read the entire newspaper every day, or to listen to & share office or family gossip? What other possibilities can you think of for your valuable time?

Train yourself to consistently stay on guard & watchful of the external messages constantly contending for your precious attention. Make it a point to actively allow or deny them entrance, according to your best judgment.

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Invest in your personal Vitality (Wind your Clock)

Much like a car depends on gas, everything you do in life is made possible by your level of vitality or energy, especially the decision to remain inwardly balanced & happy. Surprisingly, your energy comes from many more sources than just the food you eat.

For example, in Hypsoconsciousness by John Baines, a book of consciousness-developing exercises, the author describes a consciousness building exercise where the individual moves very slowly & carefully, in a relaxed manner, mentally concentrating on the movement.
 
Any physical movement (such as writing or walking) works & is performed at an exaggeratingly slow pace for 5 to 10 minutes & sometimes more. After practicing this exercise, you should feel an increase in vitality, presence & greater mental clarity.