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Sincerely,
Kathleen
 if someone has
hurt you, why wasn't it right?
name calling & labeling
& put-downs & like --
resentfulness feelings
like vengence & spite --
are hurtful & painful
& simply not right
to do to another,
no matter what cause --
its bad be hurtful
there should be some laws.
When people are careless
or callous or crude,
or on purpose hurtful
or ugly & rude,
they mess with spirit,
they twist one's insides
they erase one's good feelings,
self-esteem & their pride.
Some things are like
horses,
some things are like carts.
Some things are like both
& in life it's an art
to care for one's self
in a practical way
& to try to avoid things
that just aren't okay.
It's tough to quit habits --
its
scary to change --
but, if you don't do it,
its all just the same.
If someone has hurt you
you really can't gripe
if you do it yourself --
why wasn't it right?
F. Seuss
 
2001-10-21 - 4:09 p.m.
Sympathy for the Careless?
I'm split on where one's feelings should lie when people do things to hurt other people, but then carry on as though they're victims as well.
The worst automobile accident
I ever saw was back as an undergraduate in 1995. A sorority girl was driving her car on campus & somehow hit a woman on
a bike who was crossing a busy intersection. The intersection always had tons of traffic & I myself would walk thru it
about 4 - 6 times a day.
The reason this accident was
so bad was that I actually saw the victim's body. It was the first & last time I've seen a broken & twisted human body.
The biker's injuries were
not nearly as graphic as tends to end up on your standard run of the mill industrial album (or
some fetish artwork), but the woman's legs were bent backwards & her arms were severely skinned. She also was missing
several teeth.
The woman was not responsive
& carried off by paramedics. But my attention also turned to the girl who ran over this other
human. The girl was in emotional shock. She kept crying, "I almost killed her! I could have killed
her! I didn't mean to do it! I didn't mean to do it!"
The police couldn't get her
to say or do anything else. And she was visibly shaking, as if she truely was in shock.
The question that ran through
my mind 7 years ago & still does today is, "How sympathic do I feel towards her?" Clearly
she wasn't paying attention. Any day between class changes, pedisterians & bicyclists pass
thru that intersection in large numbers. But there's a part of me that understands that she was
only then beginning to come to terms with what she'd done.
People make mistakes. And
as somebody who only saw the post impact scene, I'm not qualified to cast judgment on the sorority girl. I really am not.
Bringing This Closer To Home
But as I grow older, I do
bring events like these to myself & use my feelings to judge how I should feel about other things.
My ex-girlfriend has been
telling people that she's sorry how things turned out. I don't like the sound of that. Not because I'm assuming she still
cares about me. Looking at my older entries, do any of you think she did anything that pleased me? Have I ever seemed happy about her?
She constantly took advantage
of me & never really cared about my feelings. The bottom line is, I gave her many chances over the past 2 years & she actually did assault me more than once.
Yes, physical violence.
Nothing that I didn't stop
& I never have ever struck a lover. But she struck me more than once & admitted right before I told her I never wanted
to she her again that she was still having violent thoughts about me.
My friends have told me that
in time I'll forgive her. Unlike the sorority girl whom I couldn't really judge, I was the victim of her problems - both emotionally & physically. It was unfair & I do think I'm worse off now than I was as a person 2 years ago for having known her.
Something one of my friends
who was molested said about molestation, is that it stays with you forever. When her molester (somebody
she knew unfortunately) passed away, it didn't make her feel any better.
I suspect many victims have
the same feeling of helplessness. When somebody has essentially taken away one of your freedoms, it's hard to feel sorry for them in particular.
And yet, I've talked before
about my grandfather (now dead) feeling me once in an inappropriate way ... & while
you'd think I'd not miss him at all, I still do.
Maybe the lesson in life is
that everything we experience changes us, but at the very core we go on & that knowledge is enough to allow us to feel sorry for the people whom
change others.
I hope that the girl on the bike survived & that her life is better now than it was in 1995. And I do miss my grandfather &
admire some of the things he did. Not all, but some.
On a more personal level,
my ex-girlfriend helped me to find myself. There was a cost, but it wasn't tragic. She didn't rape me & only hit me in anger a few times. The only lasting sadness I have from that relationship
is that I just couldn't bring myself to trust Crimson & I'm very
wary of any woman right now.
I don't hate women, but I have become secretative around them. I won't tell them what I'm really feeling.
So it isn't as much my ex-girlfriend
that I hate, but I just resent what she has succesfully done to me.
LISTENING TO: A Split Second's Flesh & Fire
The Dirty Little Secret
Women Waiting for their Husbands to Die
"You can go to confession. You can talk
to your best friend. But there are some things only I hear," says, a well-known psychic. "But I'm not alone. I know other people in my profession hear accounts of the ultimate taboo; the real dirty secret many women carry in their
hearts. They're waiting with everything in them for their husbands to die.
" Having read
10,000 people since the mid '80s, several female clients between 30 & 50, all of whom are "actively" waiting for their
partners to die & quickly.
"One woman's husband was nearly electrocuted
in August. She was really annoyed that fate didn't finish the job," she says .
"Another client's husband had several
brushes with death but survived. She can't understand how he wouldn't see that dying is the best
thing for him."
Kooks? Not so, she says. "These are bright, accomplished, attractive women with successful careers, homes &
children. One is even a psychologist. But they're not willing to walk out on their marriages, or more specifically, the financial security they have in these unions."
Even Annie,
a entrepreneur, decided to test this theory within her own, seemingly contented circle of '40 -'50 something friends. "I couldn't believe that anyone would feel this way about their partner. I most certainly don't.
But
I was shocked by the number of women I talked to who, in fact, thought their lives would be much better off if their husbands would just die." But these strange seeds in women's
hearts aren't that difficult to understand.
"What
I hear over & over again is that the men in their lives have changed since they first married," she says. "They're less
attractive, they're emotionally remote, careless with their mate's feelings or those of their children & don't give a damn about what goes on in the bedroom anymore.
The sight of their husbands & what
they've got to say each & every day bores them to death. Yet these women hang in, as probably many others do across North America."
"I
suffered thru a terrible, abusive marriage so I know how bad things can get," she explains. "But I walked away from it. For many women a husband's death
is the only option. The desire to see their men dead is real & it's out there more than people would care to know. That's the bottom line."
If strong, successful,
21st-century women are harbouring these feelings about their mates, this feature on this dirty little secret, profiles several stories of women across North America who look
to their husbands' deaths so they can begin their lives again.
Feral Dogs, Absent Parents, Careless
Society
M.W. Guzy is a retired police detective who teaches criminology at the University of Missouri, St.
Louis. Click here to listen to Mr. Guzy's commentary. To download RealPlayer for free, click here.
This commentary was produced by Sharon Basco.
TEXT:
Philosopher Martin Heidegger concluded that the most fundamental
human value was care. His ultimate sin is thus indifference.
Nowhere is Heidegger's concept
better demonstrated than in the death of 10 year old Rodney McAllister, a textbook example of the hazards of failing to care that left seasoned homicide detectives in stunned disbelief.
This innocent child was devoured by a pack of wild dogs in a St. Louis park earlier this month. It's hard to believe that a young boy was eaten by canines in the middle of a modern American city. The universal lack of concern reflected in this incident is astounding.
Irresponsible dog owners fail to neuter their pets & allow them to breed randomly. They compound their indifference
by neglecting to domesticate the resulting offspring, instead allowing them to roam the streets. Absent human care, the dogs revert to their feral nature & begin to run & hunt, in packs.
Meanwhile, Rodney's negligent mother thinks nothing of it when her 10 year old fails to come home, assuming that he spent the night at a friend's house. Of course, she has no idea of the friend's name
or phone number. The only blameless parties here are the dogs &
their victim.
When an atrocity like this
occurs, we responsible, law-abiding types tend to shake our heads in stern disapproval. We reassure ourselves that nothing like this could happen
to our kids because of the superior care they receive. Before we get too smug, we might do well to consider some different facts.
Ominous statistics compiled
from the Associated Press indicate that in the past 4 years, 35
people - most of them children - have been shot dead in American
schoolhouses.
An additional
96 have been wounded under similar circumstances. These numbers don't include the almost daily occurrence of foiled plots & students caught packing heat before
they had a chance to use it. The economy may be in recession but it's boom time for grief counselors.
How should we, as a people,
respond to these incidents? It's obvious that too many kids have fallen victim to the benign neglect of a self-absorbed society where family duty takes 2nd place to personal prerogative.
A carry-out pizza & a
rented videotape may feed & entertain a child, but they're sorry substitutes for attentive parents.
Then again, the state can hardly be expected to supply every kid with a caring mother & father. Counseling & intervention efforts may help, but they're far from infallible.
Maybe our first priority should
be practical measures to keep guns out of schools. It took exactly one shooting incident in a Missouri court to put metal
detectors in every courthouse in that state. Do you know what security plans are in place at your kid's school? Do you care?
This is M.W. Guzy for TomPaine.com.
Published: Mar 28 2001
Don't be careless with your tone & diction as well as the words you choose to speak...
Tone
Tone isn't a concrete element
of language as is diction, detail, imagery, or syntax. Instead, tone is one of the most common ends or effects we analyze
in our writing & in others’ writings.
Tone, simply defined, is an
author’s attitude toward a subject. It's NOT the way an author communicates that attitude, it's the attitude itself.
Since effective communication
- spoken & written - hinges upon conveying the appropriate & intended tone, we should notice how one word or image or detail or sentence structure can either inspire or irritate our audience.
Misunderstanding & miscommunication often revolve around either a messenger being careless in communicating tone, or in a receiver misinterpreting tone.
Tone is often subtle, stealthy.
Thus, we must be careful as we analyze others’ tone. Remember, tone is an end
of rhetoric, whereas diction, imagery, selected details & manipulated syntax are tangible means that can reveal an author’s tone.
Don't confuse tone or attitude with mood. Both terms typically deal with emotions or lack thereof. To help you distinguish between these 2 concepts, these 2 ends of rhetoric, remember these points:
- An author has an attitude toward a subject. Thus, you might be frustrated with your chemistry homework. Your attitude toward you chemistry homework might be described as disgusted, cynical, or hopeless, depending on how deep is your despair.
- Mood refers to a person’s
state of being or a place’s atmosphere. Your disgusted attitude toward your chemistry homework might put you in an irate (angry) mood.
So, think of tone & attitude as being directed or projected outward toward something (even toward one’s self). Mood radiates from within a person or a place. Tone is how we feel toward
something, while mood is just how you feel.
Positive tone / attitude
Negative tone / attitude words
Anger:
Humor / Irony / Sarcasm:
- scornful
- disdainful
- contemptuous
- sarcastic
- cynical
- critical
- facetious
- patronizing
- satiric
- condescending
- sardonic
- mock-heroic
- bantering
- irreverent
- mock-serious
- taunting
- insolent
- pompous
- ironic
- flippant
Sorrow / Fear / Worry:
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