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click here! Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Those experiencing traumatic injury may develop problems with their mental health.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
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You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, too," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites
included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
 are you capable of
being a good parent?
 
Science Daily (Dec. 6, 2007) — You're already 25 and you still live with your parents. You're 26 and
you still bring your laundry take home food from your mother. Don't worry; new research at the University of Haifa found that,
contrary to common belief, young adults who maintain a close or moderate relationship with their parents exhibit greater independence in their personal lives than those who have a distant relationship.
In her research, Dr. Irit
Yanir evaluated how a parent-child relationship is connected to one's ability to fulfill society's expectations in terms of settling down and establishing an intimate relationship. Dr. Yanir conducted in-depth interviews with psychologists, parents and young adults between the ages of 23-27. An additional 100 families (father, mother & child)
completed 300 surveys as part of the study.
According to the researcher,
a close relationship with parents is one in which children talk with their parents often and regularly spend time together (eating meals together, i.e.) & one in which a child feels comfortable sharing his thoughts and experiences with his parents.
The researcher differentiates
between connectedness and relationship-orientation, which refers to the youth's need to satisfy his parents and fulfill their expectations. A connected offspring may share with his parents and solicit their advice, and still make independent choices and decisions.
"An independent young adult is one who exhibits independence not only in his day-to-day life but also in the emotional sphere, and who makes his way in life with emotional and intellectual
autonomy," she explained.
While a close relationship is often viewed as a sign of dependence, the research results show that those with close relationships with their parents were more financially self-sufficient, more independent in their day-to-day lives, professionally stable, felt more mature and were more likely to be involved in a stable intimate
relationship.
Those who maintained distant relationship with their parents and tended to make choices out of a need to rebel against their parents' expectations were less independent into their late 20's.
"The research found that following
adolescence, the familial connection is an important factor in forming one's identity and living an independent life. It seems that not only can independence and closeness exist together, but they actually flourish together," summarized Dr. Yanir.
University of Haifa (2007, December 6). Close Families Raise More Independent Adults. ScienceDaily. Retrieved
January 15, 2008, from http://www.sciencedaily.com /releases/2007/12/071205095318.htm
source: click here
Do you know what to do about it?
By Carole Brand
Enterprise Ledger
December 22, 2005
Sherry Pollard follows her
heart in volunteering at the Christian Mission. Each Thursday, she wakes up early to get a start on helping serve almost 600 meals for the
elderly & homebound in surrounding towns.
"I actually donated to the
food pantry at the mission, then I decided to volunteer when I saw they needed more people," she said. "It works out well for me to volunteer one day a week, but I’m more of a morning person now since I began volunteering here."
Preparation starts twice a
week around 4:30 a.m. for the serving of the meals, then the delivery process begins.
Pollard’s volunteer work isn't limited to Enterprise. "We traveled a lot while he (my husband) was in the military & I tried
to volunteer everywhere we went," she explained. "But once we settled down in Enterprise, I knew I had to do something for the
mission." Pollard added that her husband is now retired & employed as a civilan at Fort Rucker.
Pollard has elderly relatives
& knows first-hand some of them can’t drive or get out of the house.
"If we don’t provide
the meals & deliver it to them, some of them would never get a proper meal all week. This way, they get good nutrition
without having to worry," she said. "I volunteer for this because I want to make a difference in people’s lives."
Pollard added that she also
enjoys working with the other people involved in assisting with the meals.
"I’ve come to know a
lot of the ladies who help & prepare the meals & the clients who also get up early just to help," she said. "The mission
is somewhere the clients will do something productive & it teaches them to be responsible for their own actions & deal with the root of the problems.
Helping others also,
I believe, let’s them know & feel good about themselves."
"If we're reacting out of what our emotional
truth was when we were 5 or 9 or 14, then we aren't capable of responding appropriately
to what's happening in the moment; we aren't being in the now."
How capable are teens?
One of the 1st things teens must do is to start making their own decisions.
e.g., can begin to decide what to buy with their own money or who'll be their friend. To do this they must put
a little distance between themselves & their parents.
Adolescents also need to be around other adults, both male & female; relatives, neighbors, or teachers. Of course, they should be positive role models. Teenagers can learn from them about things like how to fix the car, getting along with others or ideas for future jobs.
What seems evident is that older adolescents & young adults enter transitions
with the goal of becoming independently functioning adults, as they strive to meet evolving personal & career related needs.
The emotional & social changes adolescents experience can challenge young people as they try to cope with barriers in the education system & labor market.
Friends provide emotional support, but this is a time when friendship patterns are changing.
Parents are needed for emotional, material & informational
support, but, at the same time, they need to allow young people sufficient room to develop their own sense of identity.
Coping with relationship issues can be facilitated thru communication, human relationship training & problem solving, which blurs most of the traditional distinction between career &
personal counseling.
Teens
As you read through these developmental descriptions of what parents need to consider in their evaluations of how capable their teens are.... think about all the times you wonder "why" your parents think the way they do....
It's difficult for anyone to be sure about how much responsibility a teen should have, but emotionally speaking, teens must experience many different situations to be
emotionally capable of dealing or
coping with situations that revolve around relationships or love.
Think about it...
- how emotionally ready for marriage were your parents?
- are they still married?
- do they have a good marriage?
- how are their parenting abilities?
- do you think they weren't capable of making sound choices because of their lack of emotional maturity when they got married?
Maybe they had to get
married. you must know teens that have gotten married because of an unplanned pregnancy.... I'll let you in on a little
secret... teen pregnancy isn't unplanned...
Teens aren't emotionally capable of making wise choices when it comes to sex, therefore, pregnancy occurs for whatever reason. if
someone doesn't want to get pregnant, there are many ways that are very reliable to keep that from happening.
Do you get angry because you're not capable of emotional maturity yet? Is that an underlying factor in your decisions? Read about anger & see if you need to examine your emotions & feelings about being considered capable.
Today's youth are put into situations where they must make important, often split-second decisions about things like cigarette or alcohol use, breaking laws, or whether to
join in activities that are hurtful or helpful & respectful - of others.
parents... how well have you prepared your teen for that very moment?
We all hope that our youth will not hesitate to do the right thing in these
situations.
Adults can help prepare youth
to make good, healthy choices. Kids & teens learn best thru practice, so give youth chances to practice making decisions under your
guidance.
Start by giving kids responsibility for making choices on matters that involve little or no risk, such as
how to style their hair, hobbies, etc. As youth grow, they're capable of taking responsibility for decisions on more important matters.
Even preteens will benefit
from the experience of working thru some tough decisions on their own. Parents should step in if a decision involves serious
risk, but otherwise, it's important to let youth take responsibility & experience the consequences, both good & bad, of their choices.
Are you giving youth chances to practice making decisions on their own?
Showing Power
Parents sometimes use power (or the
abuse of power) as a quick fix, a way to make a child react. Although
a show of power can produce results, it carries with it very undesirable side effects.
The parent, by
using power to control a child, is in effect saying to the child,
"I
don't believe that you're capable of solving the problem without being nagged."
This attitude from a parent is inviting a power struggle. The child rebels against being controlled & coerced & challenges the parents power by asserting their own... & the battle begins.
The parent is determined to win the battle by demanding obedience & in the end, the child begins to feel dependent & weak rather than obedient.
Am I being as capable as I can be?
Am I thinking about all the possible consequences of my actions before making a choice?
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